Sunday, January 22, 2012

This Moment

It's been way too long since my last post, without any real reason besides being too tired/busy/whatever. Big things that have happened are: Joey can now sit up by himself AND drink from a straw (he figured out how to get water from my Camelbak so we got him a toddler sippy cup with a straw). I FINALLY talked to people in Medicaid and got somebody to explain everything to me AND fix what I knew was the problem. They have decided that we'll pay a portion of our medical bills but that's better than all of our bills. Work has been slow, we're hoping and praying that something comes through soon, either for Dan or me. At this point, even though it's not my ideal situation, I would take a full time position just to have a steady income.

Mostly, we've been passing time by playing with Joey. We didn't completely manage to cut out TV around him altogether, but we cut back significantly. When we brought Joey home, and for the several months following, the TV was on pretty much from the time I woke up until the time that Dan went to bed--whether there was anything on we wanted to watch or not. Now, we watch mostly shows that we missed because I was asleep or Dan was working. Occasionally it's actually a station and not On-Demand or Netflix. Joey is getting so big so fast that I feel like I blink and he's already moved on to another milestone, I'm trying to enjoy every second of his babyhood and there are already things I miss from when he was a newborn! He doesn't really look too much like a baby anymore, he looks like a little boy--even if he's just playing with his feet on the floor. Sometimes, during our "quiet" moments together, I just stare at him completely in awe. Eight months somehow completely flew by me and I have a baby on the verge of being a toddler who is getting smarter by the minute. He catches me staring at him and flashes me this adorable, 4-tooth grin, unable to comprehend why it melts my heart instantly.

He has no idea how much I love hearing him "talk", or how excited I get when he's about to master a new skill (you can see the look of pride on his face--so cute!), he just knows that I smile when he smiles at me and that I'm Mama and I love him. Sometimes I have to do things he doesn't like (putting clothes on him for instance, we're entering the Naked Phase), but at the end of the day, I'm still his favorite person. The temper tantrums will come later, making messes on purpose, embarrassing me in the store, projectile vomiting will return, but right now, he's still my little baby. He loves me unconditionally and I strive to be worthy of that devotion.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Pictures are forthcoming

I just wanted to post a brief update on the lace pattern whose butt I'm kicking! With some help from Theo and some paper-clip stitch markers, I've been on the right tack for more than several rows now (am up to Row 16!). I needed clip-on stitch markers because the repeats change position with each row, due to the way the shawl is worked (bottom up with decreases), so I couldn't just use my normal looped/knotted scrap yarn. My problem was (and typically is) not paying enough attention to what I'm doing. When I first started, I would add extra yarn-overs because I was talking or watching TV. This time, there were some extra YOs but mostly I would get my position in the repeat mixed up and start over from the middle instead of finishing then starting over. The stitch markers are like my breadcrumbs, telling me where I've been and how far I've gone. I count my stitches after every repeat to double-check myself (and have caught several errors), which slows me down a little, but worth the extra time in the end because I have the correct number of stitches every time now and I don't have to tink back whole rows anymore!

Saturday, December 31, 2011

This Past Year, Summed Up

I knew that no matter how much or little I wrote in December (each month it seems like I post less and less), I HAD to write a "This time last year" post like I did last year. If I write quickly, I can make it in before the new year hits. ;)

This time last year...

-I was still pregnant

-We were still house hunting

-I couldn't have any alcohol

-I had only been knitting for a few months

-I still had two ovaries

-I had a salary/benefits


This year...

-Luke passed away and thus I got my second tattoo when Andy was here on leave

-We had our first baby!

-We bought our first house!

-I had my first-ever surgery

-We paid off our cars with money leftover from the house

-I'm back to working hourly, Dan's still job hunting


I just got back from a New Year's Eve party at Theo's parents' house, she's here on leave and has to go back tomorrow. I went to the party for a bit to hang out with her one last time before she flies home in the morning.

Monday, December 26, 2011

The lace is winning...



I'm long overdue for an update. I've been busy knitting Christmas presents and working, between those two things, I sleep. So here's a longish post about what I've been up to (attempting to finish before the baby wakes up!):

Christmas was wonderful! The people who got knitted presents all loved them (with the exception of one who I haven't seen yet) and I finished knitting the last present on Christmas Eve Eve, woot! My brother, sister-in-law, and nephew are all in town and were actually here for Christmas, which hasn't happened in several years. The rest of my family came over and we got a nice family picture, complete with four generations!

Joey thoroughly enjoyed himself, though he has not gotten the hang of opening presents. Mostly he just wants to eat them, with the paper on or off. The rest of the family spoiled him so much, I didn't bother to get him anything, so I bought my nephew Jimmy some books instead ;)

You know you're an obsessive knitter when getting yarn for Christmas excites you! My first-ever hank of yarn was a wonderful surprise from Theo--who knows my desire to knit myself a lace shawl. She knit a lace shawl using this exact type of yarn (different color) and said she had plenty so I'm knitting the same pattern. Currently, it's kicking my butt for unknown reasons, though probably because of the sheer number of stitches on my needles. I cast-on 273 and it took a while because it's not a standard cast-on that I'm used to, also it was 273 stitches! I had the correct number, did the set-up row correctly, but when I moved on to the first charted row, I ran into issues. I got to the center marker and had 3 extra stitches. Having no clue where I had made the mistake, I painstakingly un-knit (also referred to as tinked/tinking because "tink" is "knit" backwards) all 136 stitches and started the row over. Imagine my surprise when, for a second time, I arrived at the center marker with 3 extra stitches. Unwilling to tink all the way back again, I began counting in hopes that I could find the error somewhere else.

I had to Google, "What the heck do you do with a hank?"
Sure enough, there it was! My center marker was off by 3, phew! Row 1 continued with no other issues. Row 2 was just a purl row, easy peasy. Row 3 is where I'm currently paused. First time through, I got to the center marker and had 1 extra stitch. Remembering my last issue, I decided to count and look over my stitches before tinking back. Sadly, I found the mistake quickly because it was one of my first few stitches. Aaaaaalllllllll the way back I tinked, stopping to curse every several stitches, fixed my error and continued. Devastation hit me when I reached the center marker again because I was off by 1 again, but this time I was missing 1! Deciding not to tink back again was an easy decision because missing a stitch in that part of the pattern was a fairly easy fix. So I moved on. I'm currently on the second half of the 3rd row, we'll see what happens. I think I might be destined NOT to do lace, despite how much I want to...

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Attempting to Contact Maryland Medicaid

I just want to speak to a real person about my account. That's all I've wanted since July of this year--nearly five months ago. Since July, I have been into the Glen Burnie Social Services Office no less than once a month and left several voice mails that were never returned. I cannot get a single person to give me a phone number to call or the name of a person who can sit down and talk to me. At all. The office in Glen Burnie claims that they don't handle processing, nobody there answers the phone, and when the Annapolis office is contacted, they simply transfer me to the unresponsive Glen Burnie office. If they don't transfer me, they refuse to give out phone numbers, simply stating that "someone will call" me.

Here's the reason I need to talk to someone (written November 17th, 2011):


I was in the middle of applying for a state medical assistance program for pregnant women when I went into labor and had Joey. I didn't try for anything else until after school closed because according to the charts online, I made "too much money" to qualify. Imagine that, a Catholic school teacher making too much money for anything. In June, after the school officially closed, I applied for regular Medical Assistance (hereafter referred to as Medicaid) and at first I was rejected, again because of "too much money." However, if I could show them more than $1,200 of medical bills, I could qualify. I could show them significantly more than that between the delivery (which, after insurance, cost $2,000ish) and the surgery for my cyst (also in the $2,000ish range, after insurance) so I submitted the necessary paperwork. I received a letter from the Medicaid office stating that not only did I qualify, and my coverage would be from 06/11 to 11/11, but I would be responsible for:

"paying $0 of your medical bills for 06/01/11 and all medical bills prior to this date."

Direct quote. This is important.

Joey was born on 05/15/11
My first ER visit was on 05/21/11
My second ER visit and surgery was on 06/03/11

I submitted all my bills related to the delivery and the cyst. I got the letter, and assumed that responsible for $0 of bills for 06/01 and all bills prior means that the first ER trip and delivery would be included in what Medicaid was going to cover. Either this really means "we're going to take our sweet time paying the bills" or it means "we're only going cover some of them but not tell you which ones", I can't really tell. The people in the Medicaid office will only speak to me if I take a number, wait in line, and have bills to submit. If I want to ask a question, I can fill out a "Request for Contact" form, where I leave my contact info, explain why I want to be contacted (supposedly so they can look up my account info ahead of time), and they'll respond in the order in which requests are received. Still. No. Contact.

When I got my Medicaid card in the mail, I called everyone to give them my number so they could bill Medicaid directly. For the most part, the number was accepted and I never heard anything else. For several of the bills, the accounts department couldn't accept my Medicaid number because the dates of eligibility were after the dates of services rendered. Meaning: somewhere in the computer system, it does not say that my Medicaid coverage is retroactive. Ok.

More attempts to get straight answers from the Medicaid office. More nothing.

Then the bills prior to 06/01 get sent to collections. I receive a letter for each bill, 3 different collections agencies total. I call each one and explain the situation, I even fax them over a copy of the Medicaid letter stating the supposed retroactiveness. That was more than two weeks ago. Today, I got a phone call from one of the collection agencies saying that Medicaid had been billed (even though the last time I talked to them I was told they couldn't send the bill) and the claim was denied because of the dates of eligibility. Now, in order to avoid whatever the next step in the collections process is (I really don't want to find out), I have to make payments to the collection agency until I can get this whole mess sorted out. They wanted me to make monthly payments of $100 and I nearly laughed and said something smart but I kept my cool and simply said that I could do $25 a month and that was it. I am making other monthly payments to keep other bills from going to collections, which I said also. She didn't like the $25 and said that's fine but we would "re-evaluate" in three months to see if that could be increased. I highly doubt it. That's just one collection agency, I haven't heard from the other ones, we'll see if they say anything.

I sent a letter to my County Councilman to see if there's anything he can do or if there's anything I'm not doing that I should be doing. I'm sick and tired of not talking to a real person at the Medicaid office and I have a feeling if I had just had ONE conversation (even over the phone) with SOMEONE, this whole thing could be resolved. I told the councilman that if I was responsible for those bills sent to collections then fine, but I need to be informed that I am responsible. Don't tell me I'm responsible then tell the collections agencies that I am actually responsible. That's just wrong.


Latest update:

I received a reply on November 29th, 2011 from the Councilman's Legislative Assistent, Nancy Schrum. She suggested that I contact Social Services in Annapolis and ask for Marcia Kennai (who I Googled and found out that she's the Director of AACo. Social Services). My first call to the number Ms. Schrum provided--which is also the number found on Maryland.gov's telephone listing--resulted in speaking with someone other than Ms. Kennai. I explained my situation and why I needed to speak to Ms. Kennai and I was told that she was unavailable but someone would look into my account and give me a call.

The resulting voice mail (which is a step in the right direction since someone ACTUALLY called me back) was not helpful. The voice was different than the person I had spoken in Ms. Kennai's office and simply stated what my dates of eligibility were for Medicaid coverage. That was it. Information I already had in writing and nothing related to my actual questions. Meanwhile, collection agencies are threatening to report my delinquent accounts to the credit bureau unless I pay either the full amount or make monthly installments.

Dan (my husband) called Ms. Kennai's office again on Monday (I was at work and don't always have access to a phone). He got the same run-around I had gotten before, Ms. Kennai was unavailable and someone would call back. He gave them my phone number, and I haven't had a call back yet. I called again first thing this morning (December 7th, 2011) and, again, was told that Ms. Kennai was unavailable. This time I asked when I could call back, I was put on hold while her schedule was checked, "tomorrow after 3pm" came the answer. I also asked about making an appointment and was given the same information as Dan and I got before. I thanked the woman and hung up, and promptly began composing this blog post, as well as several e-mails to local news stations and papers, AND letters to the collection agencies to stop contacting me and if they report me to the credit bureau I'll contact them too. I'm fed up with talking to a brick wall.

(*Update* Thursday, December 8th, 2011: I called Ms. Kennai's office today after the specified time and didn't even get a real person. I got a recorded voice mailbox message. I'm not surprised at all, but still ticked that I was told a specific time to call and it just lead to voice mail.)

I'm not too proud to say that we're on Medicaid, though if this is an example of how my tax dollars are working for me, then I am ashamed that this is the best we've got as a County and State. All I want is to make an appointment and sit down with someone to go over my case file. I'm not looking for more than I need. I'm not trying to get any of my other living expenses covered. I'm a hard-working, tax-paying, new mom who is trying to make ends meet in a rollar coaster economy.

Side Note: Turns out when I was calling the different places that had billed me to give them my Medicaid number, I missed one. I know this because I got a second-notice bill from them dated December 1st, 2011. I submitted that bill to Social Services on August 5th, 2011 and I have a receipt. So it's not just my pre-eligibility bills that remained unpaid, it's potentially all of them.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Sleep

It's almost 0500 and Joey is wide awake, thus I am awake. If he doesn't show signs of falling asleep soon, I'm passing him off to Dan so I can go back to bed.

The sidecar has been up for just over a week now and I have definitely noticed a difference in my amount/quality of sleep. Joey still wants to use me as a pacifier all night long (and I still try to give him an actual pacifier and he's having none of it), but because I don't have to get up, we both fall back asleep pretty easily. Most of the time. This morning, I had to go to the bathroom. Joey was hungry and eating and when I put him down, apparently he was done and ended up waking up all the way and that was over a half an hour ago. So now he's playing happily in his chair while I type.

Most nights I can just nurse him and we both go right back to sleep, even if he's up every hour, I still wake up in the morning feeling more rested than when he was in the PnP. I've noticed that Joey has also started sleeping in slightly longer increments too, which is awesome. Still not nearly what he was doing before teeth, but still better than every hour. He also wakes up for good every morning right at 0730, so not too much sleeping in for me, but better than nothing.

Now he's fussing, maybe we can go back to bed...

Friday, November 25, 2011

Joey's First Thanksgiving

I made the mistake of looking back at last year's Thanksgiving post and found out that I had written it completely about Luke. Cue tears. It still hurts when I think about him for more than a few minutes or when I go visit my parents and he's not wagging his tail at the top of the stairs as I open the door.

Anyway, on to this year!

My uncles and cousins came over and we had a delicious Thanksgiving dinner complete with, not one but two sides of sauerkraut (which is apparently a Baltimore Thanksgiving staple). I'm not a fan of it so I stuck to the turkey, potatoes, and gravy myself ;) I fed Joey before dinner so he chomped on foam pieces out of a toy book while we all ate actual food. Next year he'll be able to try a little bit of everything and I'm sure he can't wait. Joey was pretty good about letting other people hold him, which can be hit or miss lately. He even liked meeting Hailey, my uncle's dog, and she was pretty curious about the little human.